Friday, September 10, 2021

Looking for a Spiritual Director?

 


Check out Mepkin's new referral network by clicking in the link below

  Mepkin's Spiritual Director's Network


What is Spiritual Direction ? 

(or Spiritual Accompaniment - as it is sometimes known)


Spiritual direction is “help given by one Christian to another which enables that person to pay attention to God’s personal communication to him or her, to respond to this personally communicating God, to grow in intimacy with this God, and to live out the consequences of the relationship.” (William A. Barry and William J. Connolly, The Practice of Spiritual Direction)


Spiritual direction focuses on religious experience. It is concerned with a person’s actual experience of a relationship with God.

Spiritual direction is about a relationship. The religious experience is not isolated, nor does it consist of extraordinary events. It is what happens in an ongoing relationship between the person and God. Most often this is a relationship that is experienced in prayer.

Spiritual direction is a relationship that is going somewhere. God is leading the person to deeper faith and more generous service. The spiritual director asks not just “what is happening?” but “what is moving forward?”

The real spiritual director is God. God touches the human heart directly. The human spiritual director does not “direct” in the sense of giving advice and solving problems. Rather, the director helps a person respond to God’s invitation to a deeper relationship.


Source:  Here



Wednesday, August 25, 2021


 On August 15th , I concluded a season of ministry as the Interim Rector of  Historic Calvary Episcopal Church in Charleston. My commitment had been for a year, and it gave me great joy to walk with them during that time.  We all worked very hard to help the Calvary family get ready for their new chapter.  

The ship is mostly in order, the search committee is beginning their work, and another interim, The Rev. Dr. Ann Broomell is stepping up to the tiller to help navigate the process of calling their next Rector.  I cannot say it strongly enough – it has been a huge BLESSING to me to serve them, and we have formed a heart connection that will persist.  May God bless them most wonderfully in their next chapter.  As for me, I’m retiring  for the second time and that is VERY welcome.

Photo:  Calvary Episcopal Church in Charleston SC. Easter 2021. Jennie C. Olbrych

Monday, May 31, 2021

Blessing a Blessing Box - A Happy Day

 

Brenda Armstrong and Rev. Jennie Olbrych



    Yesterday at Calvary was a HAPPY day.  Not only have we returned to in-person services, we also blessed a Blessing Box which had been given to Calvary by Brenda and Tim Armstrong.  We are hopeful that it will be a genuine blessing for our neighbors - both as givers and receivers.

Here is the prayer we used, and I will link some additional information. For more information about what to put in a Blessing Box, Click  HERE.

 O God, whose blessed Son has sanctified and transfigured the use of material things:  Receive this Blessing Box  which we offer and grant that it may proclaim your love,  inspire our generosity, and truly be a blessing to our neighbors in need through Jesus Christ our Lord.  Amen.


Take what you need.  Leave what you can. Little becomes much in the Holy One’s hand.


Lonnie Hamilton and Toure Thompson

  
Rev. Marionette Bennett


Thanks to Andrea Lawrence for the photos!





  

Sunday, May 30, 2021

Easter 7C - 2022 - That they all may be One - Community and Freedom

Easter 7C – 2022   That they all may be one. (Jn 17.21)

   St. Mark’s, Charleston   - 5/29/22

  Link to YouTube - sermon starts around 18:50 ish.  Here


Can we hear this heart prayer of Jesus today?  That we all might be one.

He prayed and continues to pray for us – those who will believe- that we might be one.  This is part – perhaps the center of his prayer at the Last Supper and shared with us by St. John.  One in heart and mind.  One in mission.  

Not obscuring the glorious diversity of humankind but being thankful for it.  Not an oppressive expectation of conformity but a rich and flowing unity in which we share life with each other and with the Father and the Son living in and through us in mutual indwelling in the Holy Spirit. 

Jesus holds up for us a vision of what life lived in faith community can be....and this is a vision we need desperately to grasp, now more than ever, and not let go or write it off as some utopian ideal. 

I will admit its been very difficult to know where to focus the sermon this morning –so, forgive me if this seems all over the place. 

Tomorrow we mark Memorial Day wherein we recall those who have laid down their lives  to protect the freedoms and well-being of this country–Raise your hand if someone known to you made the ultimate sacrifice.  Memeorial Day.  We remember them.

They sacrificed for this same country where the fruits of profound disunity are swirling around us seemingly from every quarter – with virulent racial hatred at work murderously in Buffalo, NY to the slaughter of the Innocents in Uvalde  to the ongoing attempts by Russia to destroy a whole people and obliterate their culture along with their cities and homes in Ukraine, with the Russians holding food as hostage in a world where food insecurity is reaching untenable levels.. in Nigeria alone,  76% of the population could be considered as suffering food insecurity – compare that with 10% in South Carolina – mostly seniors and children.. yes, its overwhelming, so hard to know where to focus, and what actions we can take....and sometimes all I can do is pray “Maranatha, come Lord Jesus, come quickly.”

And, yet, Jesus was no stranger to these things... violence, war, starvation, murder of  innocents and radical divisiveness were not news to him.. which, I believe, is one reason he holds up for us a vision for what human flourishing can look like – and it is rooted both in true community and true freedom.

I want to suggest that we are experiencing a profound disintegration of  both of these, and it would take a month of sermons to trace all of the reasons why, so I’m just going to point to some markers.

Perhaps obvious,  but needs to be said, the pandemic has hastened the trajectory of the disintegration of community.  Another marker of this disintegration is that, increasingly, people – our family, friends, and neighbors - are struggling with feeling disconnected.  

This emerges as one theme when the young men who take up AR-15s and murder others are considered as a group – they are uniformly described as isolated –living as strangers among family and neighbors – not really connecting.

A study from the Harvard School of Education tells us that we have an epidemic of loneliness in oour country – a “....new report suggests that 36% of all Americans—including 61% of young adults and 51% of mothers with young children—feel “serious loneliness.” Not surprisingly, loneliness appears to have increased substantially since the outbreak of the global pandemic.” (Link to study)  Last month, an older person I see in direction point blank asked me  “How in the world can I make some friends here? “  She had moved to this area five years ago and is still struggling with connecting.  

    I said, what about church?   Her response was that, at her church, the groups and friendships were formed and they did not seem to be truly open to new people. And, she went on, and, when it’s only Sunday morning, there really doesn’t seem to be the opportunity to get to know people.    

  What an indictment! This is the Church for whom Jesus prayed that they may be one..so that the love with which the Father has loved the Son might be in them...and the Son, himself, might live in and through us.  So that as we go out into the world and encounter each other here, that the love of the Father for the Son might be able to stream through us to the world and to each other.

So, here are three ideas about what genuine community in the church -  looks like...this not exhaustive and it can apply to other settings as well.

                                                        True faith community is....

1.  Diverse and, at the same time,  it's characterized by shared vision and values.

St Paul wrote to the Galatians 3:28 – "There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus." to which I would also add rich nor poor, straight or gay, and even republican or democrat...for we are all one in Christ.   And that’s the key – wonderful diversity and at the same time bound together in Christ.  And what are those shared visions and values.. check out the Baptismal Covenant.

2.  Stable and also porous.  

One of the monastic vows is stability – which for them means a steadfast commitment to a place and a community...it also points us to the long faithfulness of God toward us... in Exodus we learn that 

“The Lord our God is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness, keeping steadfast love for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, but will hold to account the guilty” . . . (Exodus 34:6–7)

So, steadfastness, stability but not to the point of rigidity – a faithful community is one that is stable and remains open at the same time to welcoming the stranger and inviting people you don’t know into your life. 

3.   Rooted in mutual love for each other, active care for others, and accountability.   

Jesus gives us the great example of washing feet – He said,  If I your Lord and Teacher have washed your feet, you also ought to wash on another’s feet.” (John 13.14).. and do you remember the stunt that James and John tried to pull when they said – Lord, when you come into your glory, grant that we might sit at your right and left ? This was a major power play on their part.. and Jesus sorted them out – he said, its other people who try to lord it over each other, but it shall not be so among you. 

To restate:   True faith community is diverse and embracing of common vision and values, stable, steadfast and also open, rooted in mutual love, care for others and accountability. That's a vision of community.

These characteristics come from our faith tradition and are encompassed by the prayer of Jesus – that we might be one with each other – and held in the bond and embrace of love between the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit – the “trinity of love and power”... of servanthood and freedom.

 A bit ago I said that we are in our time suffering a disintegration of both community and freedom.  So, it is to freedom that I turn.

And, this is brought into sharp focus at the moment because of the struggle over the interpretation of the second amendment – in particular, gun rights.  

Has our definition of freedom come to mean that I am free to do what I wish, however I wish, and that the impacts on others be damned and all things must bow to the rights of the individual?    That we no longer take into consideration a communal well being?  I sure see this when I am driving around town or walking my neighborhood.. “O those speed limit or stop signs don’t apply to me...if I want to drunk drive or go 70 in a residential area, what’s that to you?  I’m doing me. “   

Does freedom mean that we can enjoy endless national bickering over every imaginable thing to the point of legislative gridlock?  Does freedom mean  that our citizens are free to succumb to addictions of all sorts:  pornography, drugs,  and violence?  Does freedom mean that it’s just fine to drum any modicum of civility out of the public square?  

Both Memorial Day and continuing massacres of innocents should lead us to ask just what freedoms are we trying to protect? 

In the wake of the Buffalo shootings and revival of the gun rights debate, a clergy colleague ,  Fr. Marcus Halley, said this  

“I don’t want what this country calls “freedom.” What we call freedom is self-centered and wholly divorced from any sense of collective responsibility. I want the freedom God offers: a freedom rooted in the community, our mutual care, our mutual respect, our mutual wellbeing.”

So, what is the vision of freedom we see in Jesus Christ?  In his very first sermon- he invokes the sprit of the prophet Isaiah when he stakes out his mission and proclaims, “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim release to the captives and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed.  “  Luke 4.18   

                    So, what freedom has Christ purchased for us with his life-blood?

1. First of all, Freedom from the power of sin and death.

All of us fall short and we all are subject to the sorrows and struggles of this life.  We are impacted by the principalities and endless power struggles of this world – systemic racism being just one example.  And, yet in Christ, we can have dignity and live with freedom of heart and mind in the face of the worst that sin, death, and the wickedness of our fellow human beings can throw at us. .Absolutely assured that sin and death will not have the final word on us.  Freedom seen this way is about the reality of resurrection power at work in and through us both now and for eternity.

2.  The freedom given by God  is for the good of others.

St. Paul wrote in Galatians, the great manifesto of freedom in Christ, 

“You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’” (Galatians 5:13) And, we address our prayer to God as the one in whose service is perfect freedom.. We are given our freedom for a purpose.. and, third, 

3. Freedom comes with responsibility and accountability.

The church in Corinth really struggled with this.  They felt the new freedom that was theirs in Christ but for  some of them it became a license to embrace the worst kind of behavior – St Paul wrote to them.. “Take care lest this liberty of yours somehow becomes a stumbling block to the weak.” (1 Cor. 8.9ff) Their behavior was leading others in the same destructive direction.   So, the law of love of neighbor calls us to be mindful of and responsive to the impact of our behavior on the wellbeing of others.

So, on this Sunday of Memorial Day weekend as we grapple with the continuing epidemic of gun violence and murder of so many innocents, I leave these questions with you..

Will we act on the call to Oneness in Christ and with each other?  Can St. Mark’s do this?  Can St. Francis do this? 

Will we seek Christ centered faith community or continue the drift into isolation and communal disintegration?

And, will we claim the freedom that is ours in Christ, the covenant in Holy Baptism, rather than the shallow and ultimately death dealing vision offered to us by the voices around us?

Let us keep silence for a moment and then I’ll offer a closing prayer ...

Lord Jesus Christ, inspire us this day with a new vision of oneness in you and each other.  Then,  give to us courage to become that faithful community you envisioned and the will to embody the freedom that seeks the well being of all of God’s people.  This we ask in your holy name.  AMEN.

 

Monday, February 22, 2021

Lent - Prayer, Fasting and Almsgiving.




The spiritual disciplines associated with Lent are prayer, fasting, and almsgiving. The poem below gets at how hard it is to bend ourselves to the first of these.  


Prayer

by Marie Howe

Every day I want to speak with you. And every day

       something more important

calls for my attention—the drugstore, the beauty

       products, the luggage

I need to buy it for the trip.

Even now I can hardly sit here

among the falling piles of paper and clothing, the

       garbage trucks outside

already screeching and banging.

The mystics say you are as close as my own

       breath.

Why do I flee from you?

My days and nights pour through me like

       complaints

and become a story I forgot to tell.

Help me. Even as I write these words I am planning

to rise from the chair as soon as I finish this sentence.


Monday, February 8, 2021

All Saints Hope - Sermon for All Saints 2021

 



All Saints Sunday B – 2021- All Saints Hope – St. Mark’s Charleston


A social media friend, Zach Lambert shared a glimpse-of-life at their house this past week  LINK.. it has to do with their three year old son…    He wrote…

We just walked in on my 3-year-old drawing on my wife’s library book…

Wife: Why did you color on my book?

Son: I didn’t.

Wife: Yes you did. I saw you. Why did you do that?

Son: It was an accident.

Wife: No it wasn’t. Why did you do it?

Son: Ummmmmm… because of COVID.


That made me laugh….and I wonder how many stitches dropped, things done or left undone will we attribute to Covid in the years to come?

Case in point…All Saints Day – this past Monday… Nov. 1.. Our prayer book marks it as one of the seven principal - meaning major- feasts of the Church – right up there on par with Easter and Christmas.   It's also one of the days especially recommended for Holy Baptism.

 However,  this past Monday was pretty much just a regular day at our house..and later, when I realized that it had passed without much notice, I felt sad…because there is so much that can sustain us in keeping All Saints Day.

There are two parts to the sermon this morning.. the first is a little teaching about All Saints and the second – is to look at our gospel reading from John and, then, to let the connections between these things speak to our hearts..

First to All Saints…

It must have been a shock to the earliest disciples of Jesus when the cost of following him truly dawned on them.  I wonder if they had hoped his death would have been enough to satisfy the powers that be.  But, then,  Stephen- the very first deacon -was stoned to death and, followed shortly by the death of James of Zebedee – one of the twelve, one of the very first to follow Jesus.  He was arrested by Herod Antipas and then executed with a sword.  These deaths must have stunned and grieved them profoundly.. and they were followed by so many. It became the custom in the early church to remember and give thanks to God for the martyrs.  – Peter and Paul, James the first Bishop of Jerusalem, Polycarp, Perpetua and her friends… ……and then, countless others as the years rolled on. 

Normally,  Church commemorations of particular saints occur on the anniversaries of their deaths – their birthday into heaven. However, for all of those whose death-dates were unknown, a commemoration for "all the martyrs" was established somewhere around 350 AD.  By the 6th  century , the feast began to include non-martyrs as well and became an opportunity for Church families to celebrate all of its saints –and to today -  for us to include those known to us- our own beloved, faithful departed.  I think too about the saints of St. Mark’s – those who labored and sacrificed to form this faith community and to build this church.   

And so, on All Saints, we are called to remember them and to give thanks for their lives and their faithfulness in passing along the hope of the gospel to the next generation…

and make no mistake, it is still costly to follow Jesus…  –this year, 2021,  the total registered number of Christians who have died for their faith is 4,761 …  North Korea, Afghanistan,  Somalia, Nigeria among the leaders in putting to death the saints.  LINK.   I wondered if you knew that.  

This treasure, this hope we have - through faith in our Lord Jesus Christ and new life in him – the restored relationship with God- is so very costly – something we don’t always realize or remember. 

  So, remember, remember, remember,  give thanks not only for those long ago brothers and sisters, but also for our own saints –  those we love who have entered into the larger life.. and pray for those who today come to a time of trial and are called to confess their hope and faith at the risk of their lives .. 

So, All Saints – truly a Principal feast of the Church.

Now I want to segue to the second part of the sermon.

I have wondered, and perhaps you have too, what made it and continues to make it possible for our brothers and sisters in the past to so willingly go to the sword, the stake, the killing ground, or to live so vulnerably , so openly that they exposed themselves to their enemies by living out their faith.  Here, I think of Dr. King, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Edith Stein, and Oscar Romero- and closer to home - the Emmanuel Nine.…  How could they do that?  

I want to suggest to you that one possible response to that question lies at the heart of our  readings today…

I am not going to try to preach on all three – although its surely tempting – but one thing I did notice when I looked at these together… it’s an idea that keeps repeating…

Then the Lord GOD will wipe away the tears from all faces,(Is. 25)

Death will be no more; mourning and crying and pain will be no more, (Rev. 21)

When Jesus saw [Mary] weeping, and the Jews who came with her also weeping, he was greatly disturbed in spirit and deeply moved. He said, "Where have you laid him?" They said to him, "Lord, come and see." Jesus began to weep. (John 11)

So many tears…so much sorrow…

Jesus says…Blessed are they that mourn for they shall be comforted. 

This is the All Saints hope

It’s the hope that shines through the tears..and even the crushing losses that break our hearts.

God sees those tears.. and holds out to us not just the promise for a future comfort but sustains us with a hope which can be a present comfort even as we grieve.  Paul reminds us that the hope given to us through the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ will not disappoint us.

If anyone needed hope, it must have been Mary and Martha.  Their brother had died despite their plea to Jesus to come and heal him..Twice they say to Jesus – Lord, if you had been here our brother would not have died.  And now, Lazarus  has been in the tomb for four days… past any hope of a miraculous healing from Jesus. Now, they were looking at a life without the protection of a male family member which was absolutely necessary for survival in that time, place, and culture….  Women could not inherit  family property – their home would go to the closest male relative.. so they not only faced the loss of their beloved brother, they faced homelessness and poverty. They most likely were grappling with not only grief and terrible anxiety about the their future but also acute disappointment with their friend, Jesus.  And, yet into their hopelessness and the darkness of death,  he spoke the word of LIFE because he is light of life – LIFE itself.. and his word to all of those standing around – unbind him and let him go.  

Where do you need to hear the word of LIFE today?  What in you, in us, needs to be unbound and let go?  Fear, grief, hopelessness – Hear Jesus’ word of LIFE to you… LIVE.

Glen Scrivener, Church of England priest, evangelist, and poet , speaks to this hope very beautifully in a  brilliant short video piece he created on the background of All Hallows eve … it  ends with this..


So the bible begins with this fore-resolved fight

For a moment the darkness, then let there be light

First grief in the gloom, then joy from the East

First valley of shadow, then mountain top feast

First wait for messiah, then long promised dawn

First desolate Friday, then Easter morn

The triumph is not with the forces of night

it dawned with the one who said I am the light. LINK


Jesus said, “I am the light of the world

whoever follows me will never walk in darkness but will have the light of life… (John 8.12)


He is light and  life itself…and when we follow in his way… he will be with us, and his life will be in us and no grave can hold us, and death  cannot bind us  - no matter the fear, no matter the sorrow....and that is the hope which sustained the saints of the past… and that is the hope which can sustain us and that is the hope which will never disappoint…

Let us pray

Grant, O  God of the living, that we would ever hold fast to the light of life, your Son Jesus Christ, and also grant that in our own time, we might join our voices with all of the Communion of the Saints in their unending hymns of joy and praise around your   throne. Give courage and hope to those who  grieve as well as to those who now suffer because of their faith.  This we ask in the name of your Son Jesus Christ our Lord who lives and reign with you and the Holy Spirit. One God forever and ever.  Amen.







Monday, January 18, 2021

A Blessed Dr. King Day to you

 


Here is a quotation from Dr. King's letter  from jail to the Clergy in Birmingham who strongly objected to his presence and approach - calling him an "outside agitator." .  You can read it at the link below.  I especially appreciate this thought 


 "  I cannot sit idly by in Atlanta and not be concerned about what happens in Birmingham. Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly affects all indirectly. Never again can we afford to live with the narrow, provincial "outside agitator" idea. Anyone who lives inside the United States can never be considered an outsider.